The Internet is represented to me a huge network, a seine. As in a fairy tale on the Fisherman and the Small fish, having thrown which in the information sea, it is possible to pull out everything, that you will want - furniture, video, products, and even - to find the half! The main thing to understand, we wish to catch which small fish, for this purpose and a network to take correct, and to stretch it in the necessary place, to pick up a bait, and when the small fish will come - not to frighten off and in time to cut.

Adjustment of for certain result - already half has put. Usually, people find that search. Therefore to begin with it is necessary to be defined, whom and for what we search. To facilitate to itself search, is better to make the list: what exactly is essentially important in the required person, on what it is possible not to turn attention and who should not come across to us at all.

Variants of the search a little - it is possible to place the questionnaire on a specialised site of acquaintances, it is possible, not placing the questionnaire to answer on liked, and it is possible to do both that, and another. The main thing - as it to do!

Placing the questionnaire, write about itself short, but informatively. Advantages, hobbies, interests, vital priorities. Thus your photo should be qualitative, enough large, necessarily new and approached to the original. It is not necessary to place a photo where you are removed at mountain top in dark glasses and a knitted cap from the flying by helicopter. Very much will save your time and forces transfer in the questionnaire of those character traits and habits of possible applicants which are unacceptable for you. For example, some women write: "the married and drinking I ask to pass by my questionnaire".

If you have decided to write to someone, do not send the faceless letter-preparation. Notice that was pleasant to you in the questionnaire of the person who has liked you that has mentioned why it wanted to communicate to it. But do not correspond too long, differently it can turn to the virtual novel, pass to business.

To Give number of the home telephone number to whom has got it is not necessary. For conversations with potential partners, it is possible to get other mobile phone and to use it only for such calls. It is cheaper, than then to change numbers of house and mobile phones if dialogue becomes for you too persuasive.

Before a meeting to speak by phone, in my opinion, costs for the several reasons: first, to hear a voice of the interlocutor, secondly, to estimate a lexicon and ability to communicate. My acquaintance corresponded with the young man about one week, and all was good, while he has not called to agree about appointment. Practically through each word it inserted an indefinite article "mlya", in its letters, naturally, avoiding. For her ears it was too heavy test, their meeting and has not taken place.

Transfer of virtual relations in real - a piece thin. Here trifles are not present. Important for us there are questions - where to meet, what to put on about what to speak and about what it is better to keep silent.

The Small research spent by the author, for a writing of this article, has shown, that from 15 men - 4 has suggested to meet in the underground (warmly, it is light, is dry and inexpensive), 3 - in cafe, 3 - at restaurant, 1 - in a night club, 2 - have invited, 2 - have offered for walks of street of Moscow, 1 was at a loss to answer.

It is thought to me what to meet in the underground better to learn each other, simply lightly. To sit down there is no place, if only in cars to drive, it is noisy, normally you will not communicate. Cafe, restaurant, a night club - please. Streets of Moscow - too pro, the main thing that weather has not brought. Council to girls: if the man is at a loss in a choice or invites there where to go to you it would not be desirable at all, a good variant - the Central House of the Artist (CHA) on Crimean to a shaft. It is possible to look a display of paintings, to have a rest, if have got tired - there are soft small benches in halls. On the ground floor - cosy cafe. Near to CHA the charming park of a sculpture and a landscape is located.

Risky enough for acquaintance to go on a visit, to the unfamiliar company, on a summer residence or in a rest house. It is not so obligatory, that there something happens, but to provide the safety it is necessary, therefore it is better - in crowded than a place, whence you can independently when want, to come back home. It would be quite good to inform someone from house or friends where and with whom there will pass your appointment, and to leave a phone number of this person. Just in case.

To Put on costs according to that place where you go. The clothes should be not only beautiful, but also comfortable for you to feel confident.

Researches have shown, that the opinion on the person develops in the first 15 seconds. As they say, "at us never will be the second chance to make the first impression". Goodwill, calmness, a smile is that is necessary for a contact and trust establishment.

At the first meeting it is not necessary to speak about the former spouses and passions, about own illnesses, in details to discuss problems on work, to enter religious disputes. It is recommended to listen, set supporting questions more. Listen actively, from time to time submit remarks - "It is necessary!", "Yes-yes", "As it is interesting!". Take advantage Gleb Zheglova's of rule - "Find a theme which is interesting to it". Then your interlocutor will reveal, the conversation will be sincere.

But if your interlocutor tells only about itself, about the successes and achievements, probably, he simply ego-trips at your expense, lifts the self-estimation.

If your interlocutor long and in detail tells to you about the previous relations, squabbles with the heads the probability of is etc. great that it compensates a dialogue lack, and you it interest a little. One of young men which I met, having invited me in restaurant, has not touched almost to meal because devoted me in a detail of relations with the former wife, problems of divorce and, how it (and, in details) it till now worries. I have understood, that any other purposes, except desire to be uttered, at it was not present.

At this stage it is important to find out, whether the person with whom you communicate is pleasant to you and whether you want continuation. If the person has not liked you, it is better not to lie, that you call it, tell directly, that have made a wrong choice.

If has liked, but cannot understand, what impression was made by you I can offer following ways of the decision: 1) before farewell to tell "You to me very much ponravilsja/las. To me it was very interesting and pleasant with you. I do not know, whether ponravilas/lsja to you I but if you want to meet me - call or write. I will be glad/and". After that it is necessary to wait for situation development; 2) or: "To me it was very interesting and pleasant with you. Perhaps we could descend somewhere together? At cinema, for example? (In theatre, on walk)" This variant is good that the answer is not postponed for uncertain term.

Despite ordinary opinion what to get acquainted on a network it is easier than a lung, and dialogue with the interlocutor thus - is not burdensome, my own experience in this direction has allowed me to draw a conclusion, that acquaintances through the Internet is, first of all, work. Correspondence, conversations, meetings - all it demands certain self-return. Many people of acquaintance in a network tighten, they cannot stop on one person - and suddenly tomorrow will appear better, more beautifully and more cleverly?

The Internet became a part of culture of a modern society, and in it as in a water drop, the society is reflected. Here is both good and bad. Opinion, that through the Internet diffident losers get acquainted only, for a long time already is irrelevant. A lot of interesting, clever, decent, but lonely people cannot find pair because of total employment. And frequently sites of acquaintances for them - a unique exit. However, with deep intrapersonal problems here too it is enough people.

To Get acquainted through a network, certainly, easier. It is not necessary to go, search somewhere for suitable object, to think, what to tell and how to approach. As the liked person can be occupied and is not adjusted completely not on acquaintance. On the Internet it is easier - we write the letter or the message to the person who has the same purposes, as we. But if for any time it has not turned out to meet the required person, make a break for 2-3 weeks, for this time for sites there will be new people, and at you, probably, there will be a desire of new meetings.

Do not despair, if the result is not at once, after all failures do not exist, and there is only an experience. Necessarily trust in success, and it will come, as all miracles which happens with the people trusting in them. And unless not a miracle to catch at huge ocean a gold small fish who will come once to us and will tell a human voice: "I love you"...